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Rachel Marie Lee

Rediscovering Hope Through the Lens of Suffering

Stress Less Hospitality: Drop the Stress by Doing Less

September 24, 2018 By Rachel Lee 21 Comments

Do you ever feel stressed and overwhelmed at the thought of entertaining guests? Do you find yourself worrying about the current state of your home, your children, or your lack of culinary skills? I come from a long line of perfectionists, but I have discovered that there is a better way! In this article, I share my 6 top tips for practicing hospitality without losing your mind! #hospitality #stressless #perfectionist #presence #christianliving #tips

Stress Less Hospitality: Drop the Stress by Doing Less

 

Stress-Less Hospitality: Drop the Stress by Doing Less. 5 simple ideas that will help you prepare for the arrival of guests without losing your mind! #hospitality #nostress Share on X

 

I come from a long line of perfectionists. Three generations at least.

My siblings and I have vivid childhood memories of the adults hustling about frantically, in preparation for guests.

Tempers were high, and patience was low.

We tiptoed on pins and needles, afraid to say or do anything that might set them off.

Perfection was the goal.

 

I recall making a promise to myself that I would NEVER let the anticipation of guests cause me to become so stressed, that I missed the point of hospitality in the first place.

Unfortunately I broke that promise.

My children have their own memories of mom, (aka me), hustling about the house- frantic and impatient- while striving for perfection.

I’m not sure if it’s laziness or wisdom- maybe a little of both– but I no longer allow myself to be so consumed by the need for perfection.

I refuse to let it steal my joy.

Because here’s the thing- people don’t come to our house seeking perfection.

They come to our house seeking presence. 

Your friends could care less about the status of your home, the cleanliness of your children, or the appearance of your tablescape.

They care about YOU! Period.

 

I love the following quote by Shauna Niequist:

“It isn’t about perfection, and it isn’t about performance. You’ll miss the richest moments in life—the sacred moments when we feel God’s grace and presence through the actual faces and hands of the people we love—if you’re too scared or too ashamed to open the door.”

This is a lesson that I am learning slowly and surely. But it doesn’t just happen overnight. It requires intention.

Today, I am sharing a few simple tips I’ve learned along the way, that will help you prepare for the arrival of guests, without losing your mind…

 

Please join me at Welcome Heart, where I am honored to be guest-writing this week!

{Continue reading ==>> Stress-Less Hospitality: Drop the Stress by Doing Less.}

 

Do you ever feel stressed and overwhelmed at the thought of entertaining guests? Do you find yourself worrying about the current state of your home, your children, or your lack of culinary skills? I come from a long line of perfectionists, but I have discovered that there is a better way! In this article, I share my 6 top tips for practicing hospitality without losing your mind! #hospitality #stressless #perfectionist #presence #christianliving #tips
Do you ever feel stressed and overwhelmed at the thought of entertaining guests? Do you find yourself worrying about the current state of your home, your children, or your lack of culinary skills? I come from a long line of perfectionists, but I have discovered that there is a better way! In this article, I share my 6 top tips for practicing hospitality without losing your mind! #hospitality #stressless #perfectionist #presence #christianliving #tips
Do you ever feel stressed and overwhelmed at the thought of entertaining guests? Do you find yourself worrying about the current state of your home, your children, or your lack of culinary skills? I come from a long line of perfectionists, but I have discovered that there is a better way! In this article, I share my 6 top tips for practicing hospitality without losing your mind! #hospitality #stressless #perfectionist #presence #christianliving #tips

 

Do you ever feel stressed and overwhelmed at the thought of entertaining guests? Do you find yourself worrying about the current state of your home, your children, or your lack of culinary skills? I come from a long line of perfectionists, but I have discovered that there is a better way! In this article, I share my 6 top tips for practicing hospitality without losing your mind! #hospitality #stressless #perfectionist #presence #christianliving #tips

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LinkUp Spotlight Feature: Jennifer Love

September 19, 2018 By Rachel Lee 9 Comments

Today, I have the great pleasure of writing for Beth Steffaniak of Messy Marriage!

I am sharing on a topic that is near and dear to my heart- helping marriages survive tragedy.

Beth is a dear friend of mine, and it would give me great delight if you would take a minute to stop by and show your support!

Read >>> 5 Best Practices to Help Your Marriage Survive Tragedy <<<

 

And now for our spotlight writer!

 

Spotlight Writer!

Introducing Jennifer Love!

Jen & Don Love intentionaltraditions.com

My name is Jennifer Love. I live in Southern Virginia, am married to my college best friend and we have 2 boys, 8 & 12 that I homeschool.

My husband Don and I co-write IntentionalTraditions.com – a Christian community collaborating to revive and develop meaningful and memorable Christian traditions that are not only fun, but also kingdom building and life giving. A major focus of this community is instilling family traditions (these range from major holidays such as Christmas and Easter to day-to-day practices such as prayer, fasting, solitude, giving, and the study of scripture).

 

When did you begin your blogging journey, and why?

I started a personal blog in 2013 but began writing with my husband seriously in the fall of 2017 so we’re pretty new! We are college professors so from working with college students, we see the need for the healing, restoration and revival of the healthy family and want to use what God is teaching us all to encourage our generation and the next.

We write about special holidays and everyday traditions that teach about Christ and are worth passing on.

 

Five Faves

Fave Author– Lately I’ve really inspired by Sally Clarkson and using her books to start study groups in my area.

Fave Vacation Destination– My family camped along the coast of Oregon last year and absolutely loved it! The cooler beach temps, beautiful rock formations, hidden coves and caves, and wildlife make us want to go back someday!

Fave Pastime– I love sewing by machine or hand, specifically making gifts. I spend a lot of time getting coffee with college girls and talking about life. I also love reading to and teaching my kids and being spontaneous with them.

Fave worship song–  My church has a great history of writing their own music rooted in Scripture so that’s most often what I’m singing. Or whistling.

Fave childhood memory– As kids, my younger sister and I would always play “school”, with all of our dolls and animals lined up as good and bad students, or would be writing silly songs and recording them on our cassette player. I grew up to be a middle/high school teacher and now homeschool, and she went to music school and became a recording artist. I’m so excited to see how this plays out with my kids and their talents!

 

Fun Fact

When I was pregnant and in Seminary, I was asked to write a children’s Bible in Stories series. This was the greatest task for someone preparing to be a parent because I got to sit with my feet propped up and write out stories based upon the Bible all day! It ended up being 400 short stories but writing out the review questions is what helped me think through what parenting and explaining tough issues with kids would be like.

And this book became our source for Advent readings and family Bible time. The Lord also answered my desire to be an author. I’d forgotten I’d prayed about that as a teen!

 

Prayer Prompt

We lead prayer meetings on our college campus, helping to lead the students through some of the childhood issues that may be holding them back from freedom and toward God’s Truth. Please pray for God to use us in this ministry to affect the next generation for His Kingdom. And that our personal messages about God’s healing and encouragement will spread to wherever they are needed.

 

Connect with Jennifer!

**Because this linkup is all about cultivating community, I ask that you please make a true effort to connect with Jennifer through one of the channels she has listed below!**

Etsy Store | Instagram | Facebook Group

 

Feature Post

Principles to Start your Family Morning Off Right

For several years I have searched for the perfect schedule. I’ve put a lot of pressure on August and January every year thinking, “This is it. This semester I will create the most harmonious, productive, creative, spiritual blend of time, educational tricks and stimulating activities and we will do it all! While singing cheerfully, holding hands!”

And every mid-August and mid-January I have torn down my laminated schedule and started a new one.

I feel like I’d be better off writing a list of HOW NOT to start your morning off right… {Continue Reading}

 

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5 Best Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Death of a Child

September 16, 2018 By Rachel Lee 20 Comments

Grief can easily take its toll on a marriage. In this article, I share 5 of my best tips for helping a marriage survive the loss of a child. It IS possible to not only survive, but to also thrive after tragedy strikes! #marriage #loss #grief #couples #advice #relationships

5 Best Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Death of a Child

Marriage After Loss: 5 Best Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Death of a Child #marriage #survival Share on X

 

“We’re not going to make it.” I said aloud, through broken sobs.

I was both shocked and horrified by the words that had escaped my lips, that hopeless September day.

 

My husband and I believed in the sanctity of marriage.

We took our commitment to our vows seriously— for better or for worse.

Who knew that our worse would come so soon..

 

Visions of my daughter’s lifeless body, held in the arms of the man I loved, as she took her final breath, played repeatedly in my mind.

Her sudden death wreaked havoc on our family.

The wreckage was massive.

 

My husband and I loved each other, but neither of us knew how to navigate loss of this magnitude.

Our ability to connect became a major hurdle in our marriage.

We behaved like living zombies— operating the daily tasks of family life, while simply going through the motions.

Devoid of intimacy or joy.

 

Tension was high, and morale was at an all time low.

 

It is no secret that many marriages fall apart after such circumstances.

Tragedy, trauma, loss and grief all have a way of shattering lives.

 

Please join me at Messy Marriage where I am honored to be a guest this week!

{Continue reading, >>> 5 Best Tips to Help Your Marriage Survive the Death of a Child<<<}

 

Grief can easily take its toll on a marriage. In this article, I share 5 of my best tips for helping a marriage survive the loss of a child. It IS possible to not only survive, but to also thrive after tragedy strikes! #marriage #loss #grief #couples #advice #relationships
Grief can easily take its toll on a marriage. In this article, I share 5 of my best tips for helping a marriage survive the loss of a child. It IS possible to not only survive, but to also thrive after tragedy strikes! #marriage #loss #grief #couples #advice #relationships
Grief can easily take its toll on a marriage. In this article, I share 5 of my best tips for helping a marriage survive the loss of a child. It IS possible to not only survive, but to also thrive after tragedy strikes! #marriage #loss #grief #couples #advice #relationships

Filed Under: Grief

LinkUp Spotlight Feature: Kit Tosello

September 12, 2018 By Rachel Lee 10 Comments

Hello Friends! Today I have the absolute honor of writing for Sarah Koontz at Living by Design!

I am sharing on the subject of rejection, and healthy ways that we, as Christians, can respond to those who cause us hurt.

It would mean so much to me if you would join me there!

>>Read, Choosing Love in the Wake of Rejection<<<

 

And now, it is my pleasure to introduce our spotlight writer of the week..

 

Spotlight Writer!

Introducing Kit Tosello!

Hi! I’m Kit! I write at Another Broken Hallelujah, to refresh others with the hope that refreshes me. To be effective, this requires honesty about my daily struggles, and intimacy with the Father to receive and convey what he’s teaching me through them.

My hubby, Garth, and I operate a tea shop/cafe in a quaint (read “tiny”) Western-themed tourist town in Central Oregon. As time permits, I write features for our local weekly paper.

I just became an emptynester. Three adult kids call me Mom, and there’s a two-and-a-half-year-old cherub with blonde ringlets who melts my heart every time she calls me Nana.

 

When did you begin your blogging journey, and why?

When the economy took its dive back in 2009, my job as a kitchen designer for a local custom cabinet shop went away. Garth lost his job the same year. Still, I sensed the Spirit telling me just to trust; this was all okay.

I launched an independent kitchen design business, and my social-media-savvy hubby suggested I start a blog. I called it The High Desert Home Companion and wrote about homey stuff: kitchen design trends, local events, recipes, etc.

Twitter was young, and it was all new and exciting. Soon I was invited to guest blog for other designers across the country.

Later that year, my mom went home to be with the Lord. Increasingly, my posts became off-topic. Personal. Meanwhile I landed a byline in the local paper. The Lord was unveiling my second-half career: writing!

I took a leap of faith, left kitchen design, and began calling myself a writer. Another Broken Hallelujah was born, and myriad other projects.

 

Five Faves

Fave food– I eat healthy, mostly dairy-free vegetarian. BBQ Kettle Chips are my kryptonite.

Fave Tv show– My kids tease me about being a sucker for Hallmark movies. Not gonna deny it.

Fave Pastime– Anything involving fresh air and nature! We live in mountain and lake country, so hiking or driving aimlessly with camera at hand.

Fave Bible character– Joseph, because his story reminds me my calamities are relatively minor, and God will redeem them.

Fave childhood memory– I lost my dad to lung cancer when I was a teen. So I hold certain memories close. Once he invited me to help him paint our rental house. He brought the transistor radio and let me choose the station, and we worked side by side. As I rolled soft yellow paint onto the stucco and sang along to Elton John and Donny Osmond, I sensed my father liked my company. Perhaps it’s why that buttery color is still a favorite.

 

Fun Fact

My real name is Catherine, but my dad started calling me Kit before I was out of diapers. On my dad’s side, I come from a long, nearly unbroken line of American preachers dating back to the 1700s. My son, a seminary student, appears to be resuming the line. And my older daughter’s husband is a youth pastor.

 

Prayer Prompt

I’m working on a book, so I covet prayers that I’ll continue to be inspired and focused, that it will serve and glorify God, and find its way to its readership.

 

Connect with Kit!

**Because this linkup is all about cultivating community, I ask that you please make a true effort to connect with Kit through one of the channels she has listed below!**

Facebook | Instagram | Twitter

 

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Someday is Today, and You Have Everything You Need

What if Someday was today? Would I have everything I need for all it holds? Would you?

Which Someday are you waiting for?

Someday we won’t live paycheck to paycheck.

Someday I won’t be stupid-busy; then I’ll take care of myself.

Someday I’ll have more time and energy to serve God.

Someday the kids will rise and call me blessed. 😀

Today is someday!

Nearly twenty years ago, I slipped into a chair at church for a mid-week class. At my feet, Baby Chelsea lay sleeping, tummy full, nestled in her carrier. I’d just dropped off Marissa and Sean, then nine and seven years old, at Awana Club. If all went well, I had a couple hours to focus on the teaching.

After class, several women chatted about a ministry opportunity. I yearned to be part of it, but, well . . . the demands of a young family and all… when I whined to the friend next to me, I chose the wrong person to commiserate. But, in Kathy, I had chosen the perfect person to lovingly bop me up the side of the head.. {Continue Reading}

 

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Choosing Love in the Wake of Rejection

September 11, 2018 By Rachel Lee 28 Comments

Have you felt the crushing blow of rejection? How did you respond? Having those closest to us- those we love- reject us, can cause deep wounds that are not easily forgotten. Having Jesus as our greatest example, we too can learn to choose love in the wake of rejection. Find out how, by clicking here! #rejection #love #encouragement #relationships

Choosing Love in the Wake of Rejection

 

Choosing Love in the Wake of Rejection: 7 Biblical Ways to Respond to the Sting of Rejection. #rejectionhurts #lovewins Share on X

 

There I sat, in a cold, sterile office seated across from two prominent figures in the church.

My husband sat next to me, his hand on my knee, offering me the only comfort he possibly could in that moment- his gentle touch. As if to say, “I know. I heard. I am with you.”

The room was spinning. I tried frantically to grasp the reality of what my ears had just heard.

My hands held tight to each other- gripping. Afraid to let go, because if I did, I might come undone.

I shivered. Was it the cold room? Or her icy stare from across the table?

Sobbing profusely, I clung to the tear-soaked tissues, which if wrung out, would fill a small cup.

Time stood still. In reality it had only been a few minutes, but it felt like an eternity.

My friend sat opposite of me at the table; stone-faced.

Staring.

Waiting.

Her silence coaxing me to respond.

But how do you respond to someone who has just told you, in her words, all the reasons for her pent-up resentment towards you?

I felt alone, exposed, raw and far more vulnerable than I am comfortable with.

The pain of rejection was sharp.
For the following days, weeks, and months I struggled to wrap my mind around the events of that night.

My memory was like a cruel tape stuck on replay. I must have relived the assault on my heart a thousand times over.

It never got easier.

So much confusion.

Why hadn’t she come to me sooner?

We could have met over a warm cup of coffee, like we had done many times before. Out of love and mutual respect, we would talk openly- honestly. Maybe have a good cry, exchange hugs, and keep our friendship intact.

But there was little hope of that now.

The hurt ran deep…

 

Please join me at Living By Design, where I am honored to be writing for Sarah Koontz this week! 

{Continue reading >>> Choosing Love in the Wake of Rejection.}

 

And for related topics, read >>> Learning to Love the Unlovely<<<

Have you felt the crushing blow of rejection? How did you respond? Having those closest to us- those we love- reject us, can cause deep wounds that are not easily forgotten. Having Jesus as our greatest example, we too can learn to choose love in the wake of rejection. Find out how, by clicking here! #rejection #love #encouragement #relationships
Have you felt the crushing blow of rejection? How did you respond? Having those closest to us- those we love- reject us, can cause deep wounds that are not easily forgotten. Having Jesus as our greatest example, we too can learn to choose love in the wake of rejection. Find out how, by clicking here! #rejection #love #encouragement #relationships

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In August 2005, I lost my daughter to a car accident that not only took her life, but also left me reeling with pain, questioning my faith, and groping for answers.

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